First dates can feel nerve-wracking, but they don't have to be! Here are some tried-and-true tips to help you feel confident and enjoy the experience.
Before the Date
Choose the Right Venue
- Pick somewhere you're comfortable and can actually talk
- Coffee shops, casual restaurants, or a walk in the park work great
- Avoid movies (you can't talk!) or overly fancy places that might feel intimidating
Plan Your Outfit
- Wear something that makes you feel confident
- Choose comfort over fashion - you want to focus on your date, not adjusting your clothes
- Dress appropriately for the venue
During the Date
Be Present
- Put your phone away
- Make eye contact and listen actively
- Ask follow-up questions about things they mention
Conversation Starters
Here are some questions that usually lead to great conversations:
- "What's been the highlight of your week?"
- "What's something you're passionate about lately?"
- "If you could travel anywhere right now, where would you go?"
What to Avoid
- Don't talk about your ex
- Avoid controversial topics on the first date
- Don't monopolize the conversation
- Skip the personal trauma stories for now
Reading the Signs
Good signs:
- They're engaged in the conversation
- Body language is open and relaxed
- They suggest extending the date or mention doing something again
Not-so-good signs:
- Constantly checking their phone
- Short, unengaged responses
- Closed-off body language
After the Date
- Send a simple text within 24 hours if you had a good time
- Be honest about your interest level
- If you're not feeling it, be kind but clear
Remember
The goal isn't to be perfect - it's to see if you enjoy each other's company. Be yourself, have fun, and don't put too much pressure on one date.
Good luck! 🍀